April 21, 2016 When Life Throws You A Curveball
“Even when the rain falls, even when the flood starts rising…even when the storm comes, I am washed by the water.”
We always hear or read these inspirational quotes that are aimed at helping us through the difficult times. No matter how many people we talk to or how many quotes we read, we will still be challenged by life in some manner. The key is to be able to apply the wisdom we are being gifted at the time of our greatest struggles.
“Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” – Bruce Lee
A warrior a can train his entire life for a fight, but until he is in the midst of battle, he is never really being tested. Through all these insights and different perspectives I provide through my work, many people may think that it’s easy to be the teacher and harder to be the student; this is very true. The insights I provide are only based on things I am facing at the time, so I am going through the trenches just as anyone else.
“What plagues you so bad? Aren’t you living in your little cosmic bubble?”
I am currently going through a massive transition in my life. Everything I have become so comfortable with and accustomed to is shifting to something new. The things that I had held such a great attachment to, had to be released. This includes a relationship I thought would be shared til the end; a relationship I felt was a gift from the universe. It also includes a huge shift in career, which demands a huge shift in my mindset. All of this is calling for a lifestyle change for me. The transition from a long-held job of security and comfort to a career that I am creating for myself.
“The root of suffering is attachment.” – Buddha
It’s interesting that everything I’m feeling as I transition into a new life, I still hold an attachment to a past that didn’t serve me in the direction I want to move in. There were so many times where I had looked for an exit from a bad relationship or a “dead-end job” but I still fought hard to keep them. It’s like I was fighting my own self. The reason for this is because sometimes we become attached to familiarity.
“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”
As we go through this growth period, the key is not to get attached to the pains associated with growing. Pain is always temporary. I can understand despite having a broken heart and feeling defeated by many failed attempts to preserve love in a relationship, that it is still all divine. As I think about my ex-partner going into new relationships, I know this is my own ego trying to create more pain. The test for me in such a case is to recognize the ego and become a witness to all the emotions; not allowing myself to become attached to them.
“Relax. Let go. But remember only one thing: you are a witness.” – Osho
The stress I may feel as I shift to this new life with this career venture is not something to be stressing about. I must remind myself that the conception of the idea to make this shift came from my heart. Our truth rests within our heart. If it comes from the heart, then it is meant to be. Through this realization, I can understand that everything is in divine order. The bouts of doubt that plague me are the egoic mind trying to see me fail. As I step outside of my own thoughts and go into my heart, I feel aligned with my life purpose. At this moment, there’s no consideration of failure or resistance; it’s about being excited for new opportunities.
Through all the struggles, it’s not about trying to stay positive. It’s about just being.
Too often we find ourselves trying to be something or trying to do something else. All this “trying” is outside of our true selves. Being authentic to our true selves comes from just “being.” When we are in a state of being, we are no longer resistant to what life brings. It’s the resistance that we carry that brings us stress. The moment we are able to let go is the time when the beauty of life becomes obvious and all the struggles disappear.
“Life is simple, it’s just not easy.”
No matter how much we read or learn from teachers, we are all going to be challenged in our lives to some degree. The greatest lesson I’ve pulled away from my resistance to move forward in my life was to trust my own heart. I spent so many years allowing fear to control me. It’s time to embrace the journey that life has waiting for me.
“The opposite for courage is not cowardice, it is conformity. Even a dead fish can go with the flow.” – Jim Hightower